Finding that balance between work and life might not be that easy when you work a demanding job, such as a doctor. But what happens when you decide to take back the power of having time off? Dr. Ali Novitsky joins me to talk about how she quit her thriving career in pediatrics to pursue other medical avenues, eventually leading to her successful coaching career.
About Dr. Ali Novitsky
Ali and her husband were both working time-consuming and very demanding medical jobs that meant they had to hire multiple babysitters. Even when Ali got a new position as a medical director working from home, she still wasn’t finding the time to both be with her children and take adequate time off. When her friend asked her to go to a coaching retreat with her, however, she figured out how to make it happen.
Quitting something you’ve thought you would be for your entire life, like a doctor, shook Ali’s identity. She didn’t know who she was if she wasn’t a doctor. But the decisions she’s made have led her to feel more fulfilled with purpose and direction in life.
Ali now works with over-functioning female physicians to regain control of their mind, body, and relationship. She explains what the difference between therapy and life coaching is and how a coach can help their clients take action to make changes in their life – to actually give and recommend advice.
One of the biggest things Ali sees is that women are afraid to ask for help. We all need to be more comfortable with actually asking for assistance when we need to. And, on this note, once we start changing the expectations we’ve set for ourselves in our own heads we can start to expand our lives.
Lastly, Ali shares why it’s so important to let our vulnerabilities show. People connect with people, with real stories, with real struggles, traumas, happiness, and life. That’s why it’s okay to share your vulnerabilities with people. But it’s also important to remember that not everyone is as open, and one person’s vulnerability might look much more closed than another’s.
How do you share your vulnerability? Do you have an ideal expectation for where you’re going in your life? When’s the last time you asked for help?
In This Episode:
- How there is power in having time to have a life
- How making a quit, even if it’s the best decision for you, can totally shake your identity
- What the difference between therapy and coaching is
- Why you shouldn’t be afraid of asking for help when you need it
- What happens when you change your expectations
- How to understand different levels of vulnerability
- Why it’s okay to share your vulnerabilities
“A large proportion of the women I work with are single. They have this really difficult time because they think they should be doing more because they have less to manage. But that is not true. They’re not even equal. They shouldn’t even be linked together.” (19:25)
“Asking for help is a practice that takes practice.” (32:34)
“All you have to do is one time show the vulnerability. It only has to happen one time. You automatically get acclimated. Then the vulnerability does not feel scary anymore.” (36:05)
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